Thursday, August 28, 2008

Month One – Ups and Downs

So I haven’t been writing much lately. We’ve been super busy with school starting this week, but I think it’s been more that I’ve just been feeling a little down about 18MTTC. While I felt we made some significant changes this month, as referenced in some of our other posts, the end result wasn’t as “big” as I expected. At the end of the day, we probably cut out between $600-$1000 from our typical monthly spending. As I write that, I realize that it’s pretty significant. What was I expecting? I don’t know but I think I know the source of my disappointment. Here’s the bottom line –

With our lifestyle, no matter how much we try to cut things out, we’re still going to be spending an above average amount of money on things each month. That’s just the way it is. Some things to us are just not expendable. For example, my hair. I get my hair highlighted about once every 8-10 weeks, so about 5-6 times a year. Each time, it’s between $150 to $200 (includes cut). Over the course of the year, $1,000 doesn’t seem that bad, but I just dread spending the nearly $200 each time. But at the same time, I’m not willing to give it up and go Clairol. So with 18MTTC on my mind, how can I feel good about dropping $200 for my hair? I can’t and that’s why I haven’t made my next appointment although desperately needing it – it’s root city right now.

So I decided to discuss my frustration/disappointment with Bryan. I guess I was also looking for some reassurance that he feels the same way and agrees that some things we just don’t want to change. He does share my thinking and also pointed out that over the last month, we had several out of the ordinary expenses come along:

  • $350 to fix the Saab
  • $170 for bridesmaid apparel

Without those two expenses, our savings would have looked even more impressive. All in all, he assured me (and I look to him for this because he is our family CFO and knows more about our spending patterns than I) that we’re doing well. As I’ve mentioned before, I’m also an instant gratification girl, so keeping my chin up will be challenging for me. I need the reassurance that I’m doing a good job, even as I continue to spend on things that I feel are necessary, but in the grand scheme of things (outside our little world) really aren’t.

This weekend, Bryan and I are going to sit down and take a good look at how we did in August. Identify some wins (ugh, that sounds so corporate) and see where we can continue to improve. Oh, and I’ve come up with a fun new rule...$100 a month per person (just Bryan and I, not Noah and Owen) for miscellaneous spending. Things like lunches out, a magazine here or there, ice coffees, maybe a new shirt, etc. We were finding ourselves feeling it necessary to divulge every $10 spent to each other, which is just ridiculous. So instead of trying to sneak my new scrapbooking magazine into the house, I don’t have to feel guilty, as long as I count it towards my $100 a month. This isn’t really extra spending, we were doing it anyway, but now there’s a bucket for it and a limit to it. I’ll try not to spend it all in one place ;-)

$2.04 of Happiness

I’m not a coffee drinker. At least that’s what I’ve been saying for the last 20 years of my life. But I think that I may no longer be able to make that claim. Lately, I’ve been craving an ice coffee in the morning. I don’t like it hot, just cold. And all I need is a small. I think that because I expose myself to so little caffeine, that when I do – after just a few sips – I really can feel the effects. I’m honestly a little happier and have a more positive outlook on my day. Songs I like on the radio sound better, I feel more eager to tackle problems, my kids seem perfect, etc. It’s kind of fun. A mini high. Is this what habitual coffee drinkers experience daily? Pretty cool – and totally worth the $2.04.

Friday, August 22, 2008

That's Hot!

I received our monthy electric bill yesterday. I was...surprised. Last month our electric bill was $320. A bit high considering we were on vacation for one of the weeks of that month. So I made it a point to try to be better at using the grill for cooking and turning off lights and stuff like that. But typically the increase in the summer months comes from the central A/C. So we made a concerted effort to use it sparingly when the summer first began. Well after the July bill (and with a little help from Mother Nature) we started keeping the windows open more often and used the small fan we have in our bedroom to keep us cool at night.

August electric bill -- $180

Savings - $140

Now "that's hot"!

Wednesday, August 20, 2008

Are bare feet part of the Saint James School uniform?

Noah is now a size 12.5 foot. For such a small kid he has big feet. My father would call them "gunboats" as he called mine (actually, he still calls them that). But I digress.

Noah needs a new pair of shoes. We were able to buy his pants from The Gap (they have a "uniform shop" for really cheap -- $15 a pair. And if last year is any indication of how they will wear throughout the year, 4 pairs will last until June without getting too ratty. As for ties and shirts, his ties still fit and we had to replace his shirts in April of last year because he got to big for them. So we are good in that department.

But, I digress again. Part of the school uniform is a nice proper pair of dress shoes (black or brown, but we think black looks nicer and quite frankly we only have a black belt to match them to). I looked online and in every store, but everything was over $40. Seemed like a lot to me normally, but now with EMTTC (that's "Eighteen months to the Cape" for those of you who like acronyms or watch DTWS - figure it out), I was determined to get a nice pair, cheap.

Macy's, Footlocker, The Childrens Place, Gap, Old Navy, Famous Footwear and Target all left me hanging. I even stepped inside Payless against my better judgement and found nothing. FYI - I didn't drive to all these places and waste gas, I was always already there for something else or it is in the mall across the street from MY office so I can walk. The nice lady in The Children's Place suggested JC Penny. Who? What? They still exist? They sell more than just old ladies undergarments and 1970's comforters?

Well, they do. And they have shoes. Lots of shoes. There was a cacaphony of shoes. A shoe bazaar or extravaganza if you will. In fact, they have shoes for:

88 Cents?

Well, not really. But check this out. They had 15 pairs of boys black dress shoes to choose from. And the quality was actually nice unlike the ones we paid way too much for last year and ripped halfway through the year.

So you buy 1 pair and get 1 pair for 88 cents. Two pairs for $30.88 - no tax. Considering the cheapest pair I could find was at Famous Footwear and was $35, I think I got a deal. And the best part is one pair are loafers, no tying required. (Noah can't tie his shoes yet - we are working on it).

So if you consider that two pairs would have cost $70, we saved 43%.

So I guess patience IS a virtue and hard work and determination DOES go rewarded. But I figured I learned three things today:

1. ignorance isn't always bliss
2. Payless still STINKS
3. JC Penny is cheap boys dress shoe heaven

Music - Part 2

Conversation 3 mintues ago over IM:

Jennifer: kooks are playing at lupos on Sunday the 14th. Tickets are $10. Want to ask Michelle and Chris to go?

Bryan: do they like them?

Jennifer: for $10 it's just a fun night out. they've got 3 weeks to listen to them

Jennifer: Michelle was saying she wanted to go to a concert

Bryan: 18 months to the cape. and we are going to the US Open and NYC. the kooks will be $10 plus dinner - each. I say no.

Jennifer: I'm going to see if she wants to go with just me and I'll tell her no dinner. Show is at 7pm. It's $10. I wanted to see them in Boston last June and tickets were $25. If you don't want to go that's fine, but I'm taking $25 and going if she wants to go

Bryan: ok, makes sense.

Compromise is key. I really don't care about the Kooks whatsoever. I could take them or leave them. But I know Jen really likes them - so I could tell there was a bit of "I'm doing this whether you like it or not" in her last post. And that is fine. But in my mind, I started thinking the following:

A night out typically means:
Tickets ($20)
babysitter ($40)
dinner and drinks ($120)
gas ($20)
some other extraneous expense like parking ($10).

So what $10 to see the Kooks ends up costing us is:

$210


Now the concert will only cost $25 and Jen still gets to see the concert with a friend. I think it works out very well. We just saw two concerts together, so I have my fill for the time being.

Money saved - $185.

Seeing the Kooks - Priceless

(Note from Jen: We both agree that the initiative is about cutting back, not cutting out entirely. I think that $25 is totally reasonable for a concert and a few drinks (bummer about the FEW part, but I'll deal) and I will note it as part of my small pool of discretionary spending for September. Maybe I'll give up something like Noah and Owen's lunch money to make up for it ;-) But I must also give Bryan props for recognizing that he wasn't really into it. So by cutting him, and a potential dinner, out, we saved ourselves $185 from what we would have normally done prior to the initiative. That's cutting back for ya. That's a savings of 88%. May not sound like a major sacrifice to most of you, but for us, it's curbing our old habits to make room for savings and debt elimination - and that's what this is all about folks. But I've got to have fun - and martinis - once in a while :-))

Tuesday, August 19, 2008

Music - Missing my iTunes

So before we started the "initiative" we had purchased tickets to two concerts - the Killers and Coldplay. Went to both shows a few weeks ago and haven't stopped listening to either band since. A good thing and a bad thing. I'm getting totally sick of these bands, but I'm also trying to curb my iTunes download habit in light of the initiative, so for that, it has been a good thing. Just yesterday as I was driving home, I was asking myself how many more times I could listen to the Viva la Vida Coldplay album. After seeing the concert, I love it so much more than I did prior to, but I don't want to wear it out. This morning, I remembered a recent email, from my friend Pete, about free tunes. I just checked it out and it is legit and a great little secret to get some new music free. Here's the info...

Hey- thought you might be interested in this. Vanity Fair started offering free mp3 on their site each month. One is that Ting Tings song Great DJ (which I know you have), but there a few from The Virgins who I've heard are supposed to be pretty good, and a few others.Enjoy! http://www.vanityfair.com/online/culture/hot-tracks/

This month they're offering 7 free songs from artists Adele, the Virgins, the Ting Tings, Tift Merritt, and Max and the Marginalized. My favorites after a quick listen are ‘Rich Girls’ by the Virgins and 'Private Affair' by the Virgins.

To save a copy of any of the songs as mp3s, right click the song link and choose 'save as.’ It’ll save into your music folder (or at least it did on my computer). If you go into the music folder and click on it, it’ll open it up in iTunes.

Give a listen, you might find something you like. These songs were posted the first week of August, so check back in early September to see if they’ve posted more.

New music – free. Saved = $7. Thanks Pete (and Vanity Fair, I guess).

Thursday, August 07, 2008

Books, frugality and hunger

I spend tons on books. I love books. Books to read. Books to look at. Cook books. Craft books. I just love books. So this is clearly an area for me to curb my spending. Not working across the street from a big box bookstore will certainly help, but I do also love to see that box on my doorstep from Barnes & Noble. So the easiest solution to this problem is clearly not to give up books (my mother would be devastated) but to find other ways to get them - namely, the library.

I've always been a big proponent of using the library, but I'll admit that lazy often gets the better of me and I break down and buy it rather than go to the library to look for it. I'm also all about instant gratification, so often I'll buy a book just to have it, even though I may not get to reading it for months. This is tough with using the library because you've got a finite amount of time with each book - I want to hold it forever. You must choose wisely and manage your desire. My local library is also open kind of odd hours, so I used to use that as an excuse as well.

Well under the new plan, the library is my new best friend. I've figured out how to request books online, which makes the experience much more pleasurable. The boys have also been enjoying going to the library. They have more books in their room that they'll ever get to, but they must have caught that lust for 'new' books from me. So I've already logged a savings of like $30 by taking out two books that I wanted. Here's the story of one of them...

While health and wellness isn't really part of the 18 month Cape initiative, it's always a goal of mine that ebbs and flows. The past few months have packed on some pounds and I'm back in healthy eating mode. A co-worker recently turned me on to these daily "Hungry Girl" emails. Check her out if you haven't heard of her www.hungry-girl.com I love her - great practical tips on eating healthy - but EATING. So she also has a cook book. Well I enjoy her daily emails so much I really wanted to check out the cook book. Normally I would have run out to a store and bought it. I think it's like $15 (softcover). I decided to practice the 'plan' and get it from the library. My local library had it in stock - GREAT! So there's tons of stuff that I love in it and it's been sitting on my kitchen island for a few weeks now with pages marked off for recipes that I want to try. I've already renewed it once and it's due back on Monday. It's now or never - seize the day - make copies!!!

So I bring the book into work to make copies. After eating my lunch (that I brought to work, I'm such a good girl ;-) I head to the copy room to copy the recipes that I like - there were about 75 of them. Yeah, we're not talking 3 or 4. I was thinking that this will take me a while and as a result I've been putting it off. (I know you're thinking just buy the damn book!) Well it did take me a while, about 25 minutes. Luckily it wasn't a busy time for the copy room.

I had just about finished without being noticed when a guy from the "other side" of the floor, a fairly attractive guy (by work standards anyway) walks in and is using the printer right next to me. And he's lingering, so I'm forced to open the copier lid to reveal (horror of all horrors!) my boldly titled "Hungry Girl" cookbook. Yep, that's me. Hello fairly attractive man I've never really spoken to - I'm a HUNGRY girl. He definitely noticed it and I'm not sure if he actually chuckled to himself or if I just heard it happening in my head. I was caught in my moment of frugality (is that a word) and even worse, red-handed with the self-defining "Hungry Girl" cookbook. Lovely. I had to laugh.

Wednesday, August 06, 2008

The necessities...and a sense of humor


Email conversation this morning between my husband and I...
Jen: I really desperately need new bras. I know about the money. I have a gift card for TJMaxx from a return that we made that I think has $15 on it. I'm going to go to the one here in Boston today at lunch to see if I can find a few. They typically have good bra brands for not much money. I'm trying to be frugal but they are totally stretched out with no elastic in them.

Bryan: Ok. Why can't you just keep wearing the same one over and over and washing it at night?

Jen: The same one bra?

Bryan: Yes.

Jen: You're kidding right? Why can't you wear the same pair of underwear every day and just wash it at night?

Bryan: Who do you think you are talking to? Don't get lippy with me. You will wash it at night.

Jen: I can't tell if you're kidding or not. I'm not talking about spending a lot. I think I have like $15 on the card and maybe two bras there will cost me $20. So that's $5 it will cost us. Shoot me.

Bryan: Of course I am kidding. Do you really think I would tell you that you couldn't buy something that you actually need?

Jen: I don't know. You seemed serious. Why don't I pull out some of the drapes that we're not using and fashion some new clothes out of them?

Bryan: Hey, didn't you say yesterday that you were willing to make sacrifices? Think of the blog…what a great story it would be if you fashioned some new bras out of drapes.

Keeping our sense of humor is a necessity to get through the next 18 months. There are things we'll have to sacrifice, but not everything. Instead of heading to Nordstrom to buy designer bras for $55 each, TJ's is a sacrifice. If you've read some of my other posts and seen the note about my obsession with TJMaxx crap, I need to point out that in some cases, you can find good and cheaper alternatives at TJs. The key is to avoid filling a carriage with crap and just get out of there with the necessities you went in looking for. I'll do my best. (Editors note: Mission accomplised. I walked out with two bras and two very inexpensive pairs of underwear. Cost to us: $12.41.)

Tuesday, August 05, 2008

Rule #3 - Bills, bills, bills.

How boring is this topic? Who in their right mind likes talking about this? Cable, telephone, oil – oh my!

Well, not me…that’s for sure. However, if I am ever going to be able to use an outdoor shower virtually every summer Saturday, I am going to have to address it. And quite frankly, since this is a family effort, it allows me the chance to explain everything to wife in one place at one time. Remember, this is a learning experience for us all. (wife – refer to this post if I get hit by a truck.)

I do the bills. They stink. I can’t think of a bigger waste of time or is less exciting than this BI-MONTHLY "charge" down memory lane. But I must acknowledge the reality that a majority of our income goes to these monthly commitments to keep a roof over our heads, electricity to keep our lights on and cars to get us to work. So it is worth the time looking to see how we can cut costs.
So why bi-monthly? Because bills inevitably come in that are not anticipated but need prompt payment. I.e. school trips, car taxes, sewer bill. And of course the occasional traffic ticket.

I actually have a pretty good system though. I use online banking and bill pay like most normal human beings. (Don’t laugh – I know people who still write out checks for everything. Ever get stuck behind someone in line at the grocery store writing a check?) The system works pretty well. And all payments are guaranteed to arrive on time. At any point I can look up a check and see the front and back (in case wife takes a check and doesn’t tell me who it was written out to and for what amount…I love you honey).

I also use Microsoft Money to track my overall budget. It allows me to keep a list of monthly recurring expenses and serves as my check register. It is a good record keeping system and eliminates the need to balance my checkbook b/c I can enter or download my transactions from Bank of America into this program. (you can also get this program to schedule the payments in Bank of America bill pay, but that is just a little too automated for my comfort). Finally, it also allows me to forecast out in the future. But as wife mentioned earlier, we typically break even every month so forecasting out is usually futile.

Most of my normal bills are e-bills and are directly billed to my checking account or American Express card. There are many reasons I do this:

  1. When I get a bill in the mail, I know I can just file it b/c it is already "paid". Remember I mentioned how much I hate doing this :-)
  2. Save paper and stamps

  3. Save time (no need to set up a payment in online bill payment)

  4. Amex gives rewards points for every dollar spend so you can get cool stuff for free. (for me…travel and cooking stuff).

  5. Ensures payments aren’t late.

Here is a list of eBills/Direct Bills to checking account/Amex:

  1. Electric

  2. Satellite (Direct TV)

  3. Phone/Internet

  4. Mobile Phone

  5. Life Insurance (for both Jen and I)

  6. Car Insurance

  7. Security System

  8. Blockbuster

  9. Credit Card #1

Here is a list of bills I have to schedule payments for in online bill pay:

  1. Mortgage

  2. Car Payments (2)

  3. School Tuition (again…2)

  4. Oil/Gas

  5. Student Loan (Quarterly)

  6. Trash Pickup (Quarterly)

  7. Water (Quarterly)

  8. Gap/Banana Republic Credit Card (if there is a balance)

  9. Other Credit Cards including Amex

Here is a list of bills that I pay by Check/Debit Card

  1. Hospital/Doctor bills

  2. Day Care

  3. Weekly Offering at Church

  4. Misc

  5. Groceries

So why am I listing all of this out? Partially because maybe you are interested, but also because I need to get myself organized and figure out how to get rid of /reduce some of these costs. But first I want to submit that some things in life are just what they are. There is no point trying to pay off my mortgage or refinance it. We are at 5.75% fixed. Citimortgage couldn't blast me out if they tried. Phone/internet – we are already have a good deal. Trash – you literally can’t find pickup cheaper than $20 a month. Car insurance – no point in looking into it as we just had to file a claim (remember said ticket?).

But here are a few things I am going to look into over the next 60 days to see if I can shave a few dollars here and there:

  1. Credit Card – see if I can find a cheap balance transfer rate until I pay them off in December.

  2. Blockbuster- based upon our usage, is there a more efficient monthly plan for movies/games

  3. Phone/Internet – doesn’t hurt to look again does it?

  4. Satellite – is there a cheaper plan than what we have now?

Other things can be managed by our daily consumption. And overall we are pretty good, but since we are on a mission whose reward is the best possible prize, I plan on being more diligent.

Electricity – we are in summer now. But we have been really good about not using the AC all the time and using natural light when available. In the fall when the days are colder and shorter, school is in session and craziness ensues, we need to be more careful. Here are some ideas I have to save electricity:

    • Install more compact fluorescent bulbs around the house. We have 88 recessed lights in our house. We could cut costs significantly by just replacing 15 of them in the closets alone.
    • Reduce temp on water heater – I heard this can save a lot of energy
    • Turn off computers at night. I know it is a pain to boot up, but having three computers running 24/7 is just plain silly.
    • Unplug appliances we don’t use everyday that have a clock/display that is always on.
    • Christmas – let’s not get to that yet. Wife will get upset.
    • Charge mobile devices at work/in car
    • Teach kids to be more energy conscious
    • Run dishwasher only when full and use clothes dryer less (read: wear pajamas more than once)
    • I also plan on reading more about all of these things here and below online. This is only a start.

    Oil – we use very little in summer. But with oil prices so high, this is naturally the next place to look to conserve.

    • Mid-winter I installed a programmable thermostat downstairs and it made a huge difference (even when wife complained it was cold and we turned it up higher). I am going to install one upstairs this fall.
    • Turning down water heater
    • Take shorter showers and use less hot water (washing machine, dishwasher, showers, tubbies, sinks, etc)

    Groceries – wife mentioned this in better food choices/budgeting. But more often than not we don’t clip coupons, don’t scan the paper for "deals" and hardly ever use BJ’s anymore. I feel a little sense of excitement thinking about shopping at BJ’s again. And I love the thrill of finding a good deal at the grocery store. I know, I am a dork. But I enjoy cooking and given that we buy so much fresh food, we need to be better about planning it out. I have thrown away more lettuce than I care to think about this summer. Easily $50 worth. That is a lot of "green" that could have been used elsewhere. Here are some bullet points on this topic:

    • Create weekly menu using "deals" in supermarket flyer. I actually enjoy doing this and don’t see it as work.
    • Use BJ’s for key items like juice boxes, paper towels (which I have been using less of lately), peanut butter, yogurt, suppositories, etc. Basically staples. 9 out of 10 times their prices are better even when they are on sale at the grocery store.
    • Consume less overall. What I mean here is only buy what we need. I like to cook – so having staple pantry items is critical for a busy family. But 4 boxes of oatmeal and is a bit on the excessive side unless you are having "trouble".
    • Return ALL deposit items

    So that is my diatribe. The first thing wife will say when she reads this is – "boy did you write a lot". To which my response will be "see how much opportunity there is to turn 18 months into 16 months? I am with you on this thing.". Yes a house at the Cape is a goal of mine – a very important one for me and my family. But I think now is as good a time as any to reevaluate our consumption patterns and figure out exactly what we NEED versus what we want. Our wallets may thank us for it now…but our kids, our planet and our souls will thank us for it later.

    Loving the Cape

    There are two things to aim at in life: first, to get what you want; and after that, to enjoy it. Only the wisest of mankind achieve the second.
    — Logan Pearsall Smith

    I came across this quote today and I thought that it fits perfectly with this blog subject. Not only do we want the house on the Cape, I am quite sure we will enjoy it. It’s not a quest for us just to “have” one more thing. It’s truly a part of who we are and we believe it will seriously impact the enjoyment of our lives. Sounds lofty I know, but I truly believe it.

    Since starting this 18 months to the Cape initiative, I’ve written little to explain to you my love affair with Cape Cod – why we want a little piece of it all to ourselves and how we’ll enjoy it. (I’ll allow Bryan to address with you some of his feelings on the Cape directly – this part is my story – the inception of my fascination with Cape Cod.)

    From as far back as I can remember, my family vacationed on the Cape every summer. It was just a week – sometimes 10 days – but it felt like heaven. We’d rent a small cottage in Eastham from family friends. We typically went at the end of June, just shortly after school got out for the summer. There was something – and still is something – so magical about crossing the bridge and being officially “on the Cape.” As an adult, I can feel the stress of “real life” melting away and instantly feeling lighter – almost literally. It’s such a release. As a child, I obviously didn’t put that much thought into it, but I just remember it feeling so good, almost magical. Reflecting back on this as an adult, I imagine that what I was feeling was a result of that release that my parents were feeling as we crossed the bridge. They were letting go of their stress, eager to wiggle their toes in the sand, to stroll along the beach. Their letting go of stress translated to a more carefree attitude, which was what was so different and magical to us kids.

    Those 10 days spent together in the cottage were wonderful. They weren’t perfect, there may have been an occasional raised voice as my brothers raised a little hell, but for the most part, everyone took it down a notch and was more relaxed. The Cape is exactly that, a place to relax. There aren’t any theme parks. Pirates Cover mini-golf is as close as you get. No crazy itineraries and wake-up calls. For us, it was all about enjoying the beach and quiet nights without the phone ringing. Every day of the week that weather permitted, we’d pack up the car and head down to the beach. We were in walking distance, maybe a half of a mile, to a beach, but we’d venture out to different beaches by car as well. We’d spend the whole day, from like 10am to 3pm or so at the beach - swimming, floating around, building sand castles, digging holes, taking a walk, beachcombing, reading a book or napping – some days all of it.

    Some evenings it would be dinners out, other nights dinner at the cottage – our annual spaghetti and meatballs. Dinner was always followed by a walk on the beach and usually ice cream. Back at the cottage, with our buckets filled with seashells and other treasures from that night’s walk, it was listening to or watching baseball, playing board games and cards, and reading.

    These are the most cherished memories of my childhood. I thank my parents immensely for giving us these experiences and planting the seed within me. These are the memories I want to pass on to my children. Surely we’ll develop our own traditions, and owning a home will allow us to “indulge” more frequently in the pleasures of the Cape. But at the same time, it will be our goal to maintain that magical feeling and always appreciate what a gift our time on the Cape is, whether it’s 10 days a year or 100.